i m so confused..please help me and show me light.. :(?

Question

i met one of my good friend nd school mate accidentally..just after a bit of conversation he started trying to make me realize that i am no good, he was laughing at the fact that i failed in one xm in 12th and i should never have done engineering, coz i don't have caliber for it, ssaying that he feels pity for me...nd saying quite a few tyms tht since m born 89, m two years behind frm where i actually should have been. i greeted all this with a smile, but it affected me deeply from inside. and later i gt depressed.
i want to know why it affected me so much...and is this creation of my mind which led me into depression or that friend was doing it intentionally?? i am just so confused. i am in great depression and also wants to give him a reply..i m so confused :( :( :(

Answer 1

With friends like that, you don't need enemies! This doesn't sound like something a true friend would tell another friend. It's cruel, likely not true, and unnecessary. If you feel you are doing well in what you're chosen field is, then that's what matters. Regardless of when you made it to where you are, you are there now, so don't listen to his drivel. You are feeling deeply depressed 'cause this so-called friend put you down like you were nothing -- worse than nothing. How dare he?! Did something trigger him to do that? Regardless, remind yourself of what you do have going for yourself and don't let anyone tell you you're less than. It's a bunch of hooey! You might want to confront him and let him know how much his words hurt you and that you felt very disrespected and put down. Then ask him to not do that anymore. If he still continues, I'd say go find another friend who will build you up, not put you down.

Answer 2

“People by and large tease each and every different, however it looks that persons who're teased misunderstand the intentions of the man or woman doing the teasing. Often, teasing is finished in a spirit of love and playfulness, and teasers try to bring those intentions via refined nonverbal cues. However those who find themselves being teased have a tendency to overlook those benign targets. When they describe a time they teased their roommate, persons have a tendency to explain the movement as extra funny and lighthearted than does the man or woman being teased, who as a substitute charges such incidents as extra malicious and stressful. The well intentions of teasers are simply no longer as noticeable as teasers suppose.” It's without doubt actual that a few persons are extra competent to make use of teasing -- i.e., making a laugh or mocking anybody playfully -- in a high-quality manner than are others. Some persons can use teasing so to make persons consider nearer, so to exhibit friendship -- that's surely a well factor. But possibly that is extra within the nature of "joshing" (teasing lite) than truly "teasing." Some persons are well at utilizing teasing so to convey up a complex field in some way that is a comfort to each person -- very complicated to do good. It can also be very tempting -- and I've recognized many persons who make a dependancy of this -- to mention that you are "joking" or "teasing" and for that reason a man or woman is humorless and skinny-skinned if she or he feels indignant or harm at anything you may have stated. The scan of whether or not you are being humorous if anybody else reveals you humorous. The scan of whether or not your teasing is pleasant is whether or not the man or woman being teased reveals it pleasant. I consider that a few persons simply do not have a well manage on what is humorous and pleasant and what is no longer. And possibly additionally it is an issue of the viewers and expectancies. I overheard a loving mom say to her daughter, "Hey, Messy Girl, are you making plans to tug a broom via that rat's nest to your head?" She certainly proposal this used to be a laugh, playful strategy to remind her daughter to sweep her hair, however I might've been very harm if my mom ever stated anything like that to me. But possibly that is simply me, and my mom -- or possibly, because the research shows, teasing is extra hurtful than persons anticipate. I surprise what that lady's daughter's response used to be. She did not say something; she did not seem amused.

Answer 3

This person is not your friend (he is a friend to no one). Yes, it may have been intentional. The reason is that he "gets off" on putting other people down (so he can feel good about himself). He does this to everyone, so don't take it personal. This is the kind of person that he is.



Don't let his nastiness get you depressed. His mean words have nothing to do with you. His nastiness and meanness is something that is ONLY ABOUT HIM.



Try to distance yourself from this negative person. Be your normal good self and make conversations with him short.



To get out of this depression, think this about that conversation with him: You came out the winner (you smiled, you didn't react and get negative, you were normal and friendly, etc.). He came out a loser (nasty, negative, insulting, a know-it-all, etc.).

Answer 4

When somebody focuses so hard on you, and emphasizes any flaws you may have, they are running from something and try to cover it up by being ignorant and bring other people down...



The bottom line is, people can bring you down, but only if you're above them.



DOn't let it affect you man. Im sure you're doing great

Answer 5

If a friend whom I have given my trust all my life, would had said that to me what your so called friend said to you, I would feel that this friend just killed in me the trust to him and my honest offer of friendship. I would feel probably the same depressed like you as something in you is hurt or even in the process of dying. I would try to "forgive"him as this will help you to move on. I probably would not approach this so called friend myself anymore only if it is really something you wish. I would tell my friend how you feel and that his words hurt you on a deep level as your offers of friendship were not held in honor by him.

I really wish you heal from this soon. He should had never talked to you like that. It was his mistake and you did nothing wrong. It was wrong what he said and do not let yourself be influenced by it in any way in that you perhaps believe what he said as his words are not born from Truth.

Answer 6

He is just insecure. Oddly some people need someone to feel better than to feel good about them selves.



They then of course need to create this person to be better than.



Ignore this person in the future.



At some point he will grow up.



Love and blessings don

Answer 7

Friends are one on whom we trust ,love and aspect moral support but if they try to demoralize us we are hurt most.

Answer 8

he cant stand ur success.....do more to show him who u are...... go now.......go!!!