Feeling of extreme alienation and aloneness?

Question

20 year old male, I see the world as you people, and me. Clear cut and dry, simply you whoever you are reading this and every other single person in the world as one group that's on the same side, and then there's me on my own, against all of you people.
It's like the phrase "us and them" except its "me and them" meaning you people and me, on different sides and I was born into you peoples world for some reason and I have to live in your society. Yes I am human, and no I don't think I'm something great, I just see it as me vs you people.

You all think the same way, do the same things and are all on the same side. And here I am, totally different, thinking a totally different way and living my life a different way than all of you people. When I walk into a grocery store or any other public place and I think of someone I know, a family member or friend, I think to myself "This is their store, this is their peoples store/building" like it belongs to that person and all of you, and I don't belong there.

This probably doesn't make a whole lot of sense, but basically I feel like its all of you VS me. Where do I go from here? is my feeling correct?

Answer 1

Your feelings are incorrect. Each person is different from the other. Each person has a different path to complete, different values, different strengths. So each person is separate, but in being separate also part of the bigger whole. You are different and separate but you are also part of the whole and important.

Answer 2

I feel this too and I rather think that there are a lot of us who feel deep alienation from our own society - I can also see that I am part of the whole that the ground doesn't reject my feet and people do see me I wonder if it gives you something to feel 'other'- r if you want to find the way to belonging to a group - Counselling could help if you want to understand yourself or get a different world view - I guess we believe what we need to believe about ourselves and the world we live in - in order to survive psychologically the best way we can. I think many of us had inadequate parenting and were not welcomed into society we are not such a highly evolved species and we do seem to love making differentials& inequalities - All it takes to belong is to change your thinking but maybe like groucho Marx you wouldn't join any club that would have you ?

Answer 3

Firstly this should be posted under psychology not philosophy, secondly you probably have one if not multiple personality disorders. I know because hey, I think the same way as you. But for a philosophical answer, there are no "teams" in this world. Everyone intends to ruin everyone else regardless of who they are in order to gain personal benefit. I would use historical examples such as Spain and the Aztecs, Australia and aboriginals, Germans and Jews, and Americans and blacks or indians to prove this point. Further more I would say that it is within human nature to use others for personal benefit and that if the people being used in these examples had the chance they would have done the same thing.

Answer 4

But of course you think like that. You don't have access to other people's thoughts, while you have access to yours. In this understanding, you're completely separated from others, but this applies just for you. I hope it doesn't come off as a surprise to you that are millions of people with the exact same view of themselves and of others.



It is, however, weird that you view yourself competing with or fighting against the world. Not good, son. The very special 'you' needs the completely bland and undistinguished 'us' to survive. Bear that in mind whenever feeling like hating 'us'. Seriously, none of us (yeah, including you, sorry) would have been more than stupid short-lived monkeys living in caves to this very day if we hadn't cooperated.



What surprises me about this message of yours is the claim that you think in a totally different way and lead a totally different lifestyle. Highly improbable, and I won't believe you unless you post specific examples. Anyway, this could be solved very easily (or not very much so, depends). First of all you go to a shrink and make sure you don't have any violent impulses, because they could impede what I'm about to suggest (you know, like failing to accept people with different viewpoints- kinda defeats the whole purpose of it). Then, after the shrink has given you the okay, you start doing some traveling. Not in places that roam with tourists, mind you.

Talk to people. See the way they live their lives. Find out about their own views on individuality. It is highly recommended that you find one with the exact same views as yourself, and argue about who is on whose side till you two finally get it right.



Not trying to sound condescending, by the way. I'm just trying to help, to give what I think of as good life advice.

Answer 5

Wow. I don't know what else to say.



You've taken exactly how I feel about society and conveyed it using abstract ideas which I could not have articulated. I completely understand how you feel.



Seeing as how I was able to relate with your situation so well, I imagine there are others who will read this and have the same reaction. So I doubt it is just you and I by any means.

Answer 6

There's plenty of folks like you, im sure. You are perhaps one of the few comfortable enough to express it. We all share that sense of alienation, feeling of non-belonging. You are no different, it's (literally) all in your head. Alter the way you think. Question your thoughts and whether their worth mulling over. We are all human.

Answer 7

your originality as a human yes. but as an idea well how many billions of people habbitate the earth or habbitated the earth. what thoughts must of come out there. a philosopher said give a million monkeys typewriter and eventually they will write the webster dictionary.

Answer 8

NO your feelings are not correct.other peoples are also individuals we all have seperate lives,others are not alike,yet most of them manage to have a reasonable degree of connectedness with the world around them,it comes from a concious or unconcious appreciation of both connection and aloofness of a proper degree from others.somehow you have failed to strike that balance.i dont belittle your suffering which must seem profound and insurmountable but my advice to you is seek connectedness to the world without seeing it as a threat to your individuality.on a deeper level understand everyone in this world is atomised yet can and often do manage to find purpose and connectedness.

Answer 9

the store belongs to the owner, it is good thinking, you have other things that belong personally to you, and you do not belong to anyone, that is positive thinking

Answer 10

No, you're not correct. Ask yourself how long you've felt this way, and if something caused this feeling. See a psychologist.

Answer 11

Welcome friend, you have found out you are a human being.