Why do we romanticize everything? Is it another form of hope?

Question

It's funny how we fantasize about events and situations that we want in life. Then when it happens, it's the total opposite. But that never stops us from romanticizing the next thing.

is is hollywood's fault for glamming everything up?

or is romanticizing = hope?

Answer 1

Hi Ice9,

I guess if you want to think of it in that way, sure. You are fortunate to have fantasized about events and situations that you want and have it happen, even if it's not exact. I dream constantly, but I save mine for another time and place. Always have.



Hollywood is the world's stage. That's it. Their stage now is all they get, unfortunately. Too bad that they worked so hard only to get such a small reward in comparison to what's really available.



Hope is to desire with expectation of obtainment and to expect with confidence. It's trust. It's also to cherish a yearning with anticipation. I LOVE anticipation... it's the most exciting thing in life besides the actual reward.

Answer 2

Aspiration, the search for the ideal, is built into the soul and reflected in more illusory forms in the personality. True romance is the semi-conscious response of the personality to a Divine instinct. Outer life is full of romantic counterfeits, yet something ideal still stands behind these and gives them fire and point.



Naturally, the subtler aspects of "romance" have affinity with intuition, with love, enthusiasm, mystery, the heroic, the beautiful, artistic works, the musical; the transcendental poets in this sense were romantics... Of course the conception of romance differs among those for whom romance is not much more than sport.

Answer 3

Kurt Vonnegut would be a suitably wisely cynical commentator, 9.

In a sense, he's a hopeful romantic who sees the hype and the glamour, and writes about it, bittersweet.



"Soul Mates and Twin Flames," Elizabeth Clare Prophet, presents a similarly balanced point of view, but notes that one's own actions do make a difference.



Love and hope spring eternal, and that's probably a good thing, not being discouraged, getting up one more time than your hopes fall, becoming wiser as you go.



"Expecting Adam," Martha Beck, and

"The Great Divorce," C. S. Lewis, are also good.



A couple of worthwhile books with "hope" in the titles and in their stories:



"Hope Rising," Kim Meeder, and

"Hope's Boy," Andrew Bridge.

Answer 4

Interesting question. It's not Hollywoods fault because this has been going on since mankind first came to be. I think it's a way to cover the true horror of our reality.

Answer 5

It's everyones way of keeping spirits up and not giving up. However depressed we may seem on the outside, or how we say, 'that's it, I'm giving up', one can never stop themselves from doing again and again.

It's true that Hollywood and movies make things seem more likely or better than they really are, but we would do it regardless.

It's called hope.

Answer 6

Some people definitely do it too much, but seeing something as ideal and beautiful in your mind is a powerful source of inspiration, so ya, it's a form of hope (IMO).

Answer 7

Fantacism, it is ok. As long as it doesn't take over your life, and as long as you are comfortable with it, then it is okay to fantacize. But remember, the realms of reality and fantasy are quite different, so you always have to remember which one you're in.

Answer 8

I don't romanticize everything. That would be very silly of me to do so.

Answer 9

You could be right.



Romanticising is like day-dreaming...Kind of turning your face away from ugly reality, which will hit you anyway!



So, momentarily it is = hope = staying afloat.

Answer 10

I don't think your premise is valid. I do not romanticize everything, but when I do it is because doing so is fun.

Answer 11

It's all just life babe! You're being too dramatic. life rarely goes as you plan.