Beauty or Confidence can go hand in hand, having one without the other is like having a pen with no ink?

Question

We like to stress looks is important true enough but if you dont have confidence or a good sense of self worth ur useless...True Beauty comes from within yes some are bless with an outside look but others only see that....Now if you have beauty within shines on the out but no self esteem just a good heart dont amount to much.

I felt beautiful before I felt unattractive before....ppl have complimented my looks in awwe no lie I still dont get that one either being dolled up plays a part but my within shines.... I was thinking a childhood girl is jealous cause her behavior twas me, now knowing she wasnt taught self love (actually self hate by a family member she loved to death) and loving myself she probably thought I shouldnt have a right (to happiness)..because to her my looks was not appealing thank God other ppl saw diff in life....Anyway it's simple looks can get you so far but personality and confidence get u farther not jealous personality that shows in hating others..

Point Im making, if in fact that girl hated me for my looks>ppl can buy looks which she paid for couple of surgeries (probably made her hate herself more)....
When you have self love/confidence you would only think about the best for self and be all you can be without hurting others...Goes deeper than looks when dealing with the real world take a look
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-r6R9VeE1HI

she dont like herself so everybody is unattractive in her eyes....basically looks is more of a physcological problem. We percieve beauty from what we were taught and if family messed you up mentality then shame on them..it's not look just the fact when u look in the mirror you dont like who you see..

Answer 1

I think you should read a bit what you wrote... it should probably be "Beauty AND confidence MUST go hand in hand. We like to stress how LOOK is important - true enough, - but if you don't have SOME confidence or a good sense of self worth, you are useless." I won't do that for the entire text, but you get the idea.



Okay, now I do not really get the idea you tried to expose... how come people who do not estimate themselves valuable are useless? What's the link between the purpose which is negated by a lack of confidence and this actual negation?



There's also a considerable problem in the core of your reflection and you need to be clearer on the reasons behind these two ideas:

-"the LOOK can get you so far, but personality and confidence get YOU farther";

-"jealous personality [...] shows in hating others."

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As far as I may tell you here, you're simply pitting your preferences against that of other people and that's a mistake if you do not have a sufficient support to do so - which you do not have. You basically try to apply a subjective answer to an objective problem which is a logical mistake.* However, you may always answer subjectively to questions, but if you do so, you must direct your answer as to define your Self, your relation to these ideas, and not apply it as if reality was to or necessarily had to agree with you. Subjective thinkers are bothered by their mind state, by their felt and perceived reality - not by reality in itself. The very basis of their reflection is existence... the problem is that I do not see that in your answer.



When I answered these questions revolving around "look" to one of my friend, I shared with her a very peculiar idea. My reply was that I looked in a woman for some inspiration; all those I found the most beautiful and lovely inspired me softness. Do you see the difference? Here, I am the measure of myself, but I am not the measure by which anything else but my own person is measured: the answer I gave is about how I relate to it. If note here, I didn't answer what was beauty or what was more important between this or that; I answered about HOW, not about WHAT. It's the how which is the important part... it's what makes my thought coherent despite its subjective asset.

Answer 2

I don't understand your premise. Beauty or confidence go hand in hand with what? Now if you said confidence and self worth go hand in hand I would agree with you. That seems to be what the rest of your writing is about.

Beauty and confidence do not always go hand in hand and you can have 1 without the other. Confidence comes from a feeling of self worth. You can be the most beautiful person in the world and not have confidence in yourself or a feeling of self worth. I've known people who were not beautiful and knew it but they had every confidence in themselves because they grew up feeling good about themselves and their abilities.

Answer 3

Beauty and confidence go together in a person.That girl is ridiculous to think that nobody can be attractive.Sure,not everyone can look like supermodels.But that doesn't mean one cannot feel good about themselves.

Answer 4

Beauty and confidence can go hand in hand.