Is there a greater chance of being happy by remaining single for life than by marrying? Opinions?

Question

With the way the divorce statistics are at the moment and with the mounting life pressures due to long working hours, married couples are in crisis. Alongside this, we are witnessing a culture of less and less commitment and more independence. These people who never marry seem to be living quite a nice life in comparison to many complaining spouses. Opinions please.

Answer 1

I have one question for you. If you really care for someone, you are dating, seeing each other often, and consider yourself single, do you believe you are single ? Many seem to sneer at the divorce statistics but it is only the separation of a relationship equally as emotional to many relationships where couples are not married. When I was single, if you can even call it that, I was NEVER without a girlfriend. Hell, sometimes I even had 2 even 3 going at a time. Ya, that never lasted long or end well. Anyway, I'm just saying, single rarely means single. I know the greatest chance to be happy is to be happy within. Be happy with the actions you take. Be happy with your journey. Be happy with the successes and the failures. I was very happy not married until I was 40 and I am very happy married now for 8 years and going strong. Because single or married is not what determines happiness.

Answer 2

Uh, wouldn't that depend on several gazillion factors?



First, even IF half of marriages fail, that also means half DON'T. Second, although many people divorce, many also later marry and are happy in their second marriages.



Life pressures exist, whether you have someone to help you through them or not. Blaming those pressures or their effects on marriage seems silly. Why would a pressured person be happier with no help and no emotional support on a daily basis?



Yes, many people ARE happy alone. That doesn't mean ALL are, or that ALL spouses aren't happy. Everyone complains about something. That doesn't mean that they ONLY complain, and don't also experience happiness.



And if you know of any single people who never complain about anything, I'd like to know where you live.

Answer 3

The question is are you willing to risk it? if you have a truly successful marraige then there is no comparison but the chances of that happening are slim. I think the main problem is people don't properly communicate in marraiges and with frustraions kept bottled up partners see the worst of eachother and in a society where we have grown accustom to instant gratification we are less likely to sort out our problems and simply move on. the problem is that in the past people stayed together regardless for appearances and ended up unhappy but the problem now is people divorce for reasons that could be resolved if only they gave it the time and as you said with long working hours and if you have kids on top of that it becomes a very difficult thing to do.



So are you willing to risk it? Are you willing to make sure your ready? I have never understood rushed weddings, if you are going to be together forever then why do people feel they have to get married so quickly. People take marraige too lightly, make absolutely sure you are willing to put forward the effort to make it work because it can definitely be worth it, it will just be difficult.



anyway I to answer the question I don't believe there is a greater chance either way you just have to make the right choice for yourself, what do you want personally. for me its marraige I want someone I can share my life with unfortunately after my Mum's two failed marraiges my beliefs are that actually have a successful marraige is almost impossible anyway enough o f my rambling, as I said you have to make the choice, you will know what you want if you really think about it and then you just have to make it happen,Single or married both livesand the happiness that can be gained from them are based on your efforts.

Answer 4

many anyone is fortunate to fulfill the magnificent guy or woman and can be fortunately married for some years. Others are somewhat satisfied being single. From what i've got seen in at present's society, there are too lots of people who get married for the incorrect motives. Too many anyone is self-based and are not prepared to truly take a seat-down and talk issues out. Marriage is artwork and sacrifice.

Answer 5

Why are you looking at human behavior, and ultimately your life, as chance? Very silly. I'm not for marriage, but if there is love (the feeling of oneness between the two), then do it, if not, then don't, f*ck the statistics. Paying attention to statistics is to accept that you are not an individual and a part of this vast whole, as if you are like others and will react the same as them... Although, in our current society, it is true, doesn't mean you have to be this way...

Answer 6

I think if you look at statistics, people who are married report being 'happier' than people who are single. Volumes have been written on the topic, because happiness is obviously a subjective feeling. My happy might be different than your happy. "The Happiness Project" was huge a while ago - personally I found it trite and boring, but it did have some interesting tidbits in it. It's a popular subject.

Answer 7

Studies have shown:

1) that single women

live longer than married women.

and

Married men live longer that single men



2) Women married to someone over 8 years

her junior have a 20% decrease in their Life Span

however,

Men married to someone over 8 years

his Senior have a 20% increase in their Life Span

Answer 8

As the wise characters on Community once said:

I mean, life's too long to spend it with someone else.

It's a sucker's game. It's a mutual cop out. I mean, just nut up and die alone.



Some people are just better off alone.

Answer 9

only you attitude towards Life determines your level of happiness.



not by being 'single' or 'married'.

Answer 10

marriage is only a materialistic piece of paper, true marriage is in the heart and no form of money or economics can ever corrupt this rule

Answer 11

Depends who you marry

and who marries you

and how flexible you are

in my experience.

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