I have an attachment disorder.. what's that?

Question

She told me I have this attachment disorder as an adult, and than from the things she is aware of, of my upbringing, I had avoidant attachment disorder when I was little and now this developed into a dismissive attachment disorder. She highlighted this because I tell her all the time "I don't understand why we are working on connecting emotionally with others, I don't see why you want me to connect emotionally with others. I prefer to be alone, im much comfortable without close intimacy and relationships that depend on emotional connectedness." she knows I am especially intolerable towards emotionalized people, i cannot tolerate people's emotions let alone mine - especially negative ones. I'd rather dismiss them avoid and focus on more important things.

Can someone tell me more about this "disorder" I am trying to work on this but at the same time I dont think therapy will help seeing how 80% of me is unable to see the point of emotional connectedness with others. I only know my way is "unhealthy" based on observations. My family - especially my mother the important figure in my life as a child cannot understand why I cannot connect with her emotionally, technically I never had the chance to, she always dismissed any chance of this happening when I was smaller, my emotions and expression of them were not accepted at all from her. I guess now she's changed but maybe its a little too late? Lots of my "Friends" and few people I "Dated" back than also complain. I do care about them however. I however cannot tolerate emotions, it makes me uncomfortable and would rather avoid them entirely.

She says I have dismissive attachment.. What is that?

Answer 1

Consider yourself somewhat fortunate, allow me to explain.....



Emotional attachment has it's roots in tribal and human survival instinct end purposes.



That's the simplest explanation, perhaps this is a broad over-generalization, but I think the fact that you recognize your own limitations as an individual, is vitally important with how you approach the remaining quality of your foreseeable future.



I tend to expect the worse in other people because I'm a tad cynical about humanity because of the ease with which a large majority of humans throughout recorded human history tend to gravitate to herding and tribal behavior constructs such as the self-serving subjugation machinations inherent to most organized religion/cults.



What I think you have is a golden opportunity to change the anticipated cause & effect of perceived female weakness that some tend to focus on as typically a general sense that most women tend to be susceptible to emotional blackmail or emotionally dubious traps that ensnare a lot of women by appealing to this over-concentration on emotional-centric female limitations.



Perhaps this makes it far easier for you not to easily fall for emotional narratives as a woman, as a man I tend to over-analyze all my emotions and I accept my emotions as they occur, I try not to suppress my responses whenever possible.



The trend for most women is to fall for an opposite or the same gender as themselves, homosexuality is normal.



I think if you have a hard time becoming emotionally attached to anyone, the natural assumption on my part is for you to seriously consider exploring a lesbian or bisexual outlook on relationships, but since you have clearly demonstrated a tendency to exhibit an introverted personality, I think you need not limit yourself to a conventional sort of relationship at all.



Society does tend to insist that you're not "normal" if you refuse or are incapable of entering into a socially acceptable relationship, this is the over-represented narrative that society tends to insist is normal for a society that is "extrovert-centric".



If you can objectively analyze that your true self is best represented by an introverted personality, then I think it's best to accept your personality limitations as I can only assume that this life narrative is what you're most comfortable with, so in that sense, why fight your true nature, if you're an introvert it's important to understand on a personal level is that you have nothing to apologize for as a person.



Society likes to define people according to a preset set of societal "limitations" and as such, society tends to discourage personal innovations by insisting that all people "conform" to a certain social construct narrative.



Do not allow society to place you into a socially-correct "box" so that society can label/categorize you in order to force you the individual to become something you are fundamentally not designed to be personality-wise.



If you have any other concerns, feel free to ask any question that's on your mind via my contact link.

Answer 2

i think of you're concerning truly reactive attachment sickness. i don't be attentive to of a single case the place an accompanied baby has been clinically determined with RAD and there replaced into -no- abuse, overlook or different contributing aspects in touch. I even have nicely-known and, in my expert occupation, cared for many toddlers clinically determined with reactive attachment sickness that have been additionally accompanied. all and sundry have been contained in the foster care equipment for years previous to adoption and had suffered abuse or overlook on the hands of their organic and organic mothers and fathers (and particularly circumstances different foster mothers and fathers). i think of there's a piece that try responsible RAD on adoptive mothers and fathers. I doubt those human beings have ever truly worked with toddlers with RAD.

Answer 3

I believe, this type of things happen to quite a few people. The same thing is with me. If I am home, I keep on working with things but when I go to college, I never look back at the works did at home. I have hardly any major relationship with any one. This occurs to us because since our childhood we began to observe things we like keenly, acquired a habit of keen observation and then to achieve. But never been attached to them like others. Its by birth acquired nature and then the environment does the rest to set it up.



I see it not as a dismissive attachment but normal. Of course, its opposite to other people who feel stern attachment with things they come across. Philosophically, you have a right attitude but in this earth our parents and they who are around us want we should grow that submissive attachment. Then where and when shall I be different to them? Earthly things have their importance but bot the reality to be attached to them.

Answer 4

It means after you have sex with a guy hes gonna leave you because you are too touchy feely.