I don't know. Live well, live honorably. I heard it said the best revenge is to live well. If you get too defensive you will only spread the informatio.You will aid them. Do not argue your innocence endlessly.Getting defensive is easy to do, but not the best thing.Do your best.
The Bible states a good reputation is to be desired above great riches. I have tried to restore my reputation, futilly, it seems. I have not been able to do anything I set out to do, or really wanted to do. I have spent some time with my children. I do not feel they trust, or respect me as much. The things I worked so hard for, accomplished, were dragged down into the dirt, never endingly it seems.
.. One problem is that if I have a sense of humor, or make a joke, it seems to always be grossly exaggerated. It seems that people do not think you can be respectable or have a good reputation and have a sense of humor, joke, or be sarcastic. I feel like a human yo yo.Caught between extremist groups. Humor is good. If you have none, you have a real problem.
Are you female?. Women are not to care about theirreputations? Women's reputations are very fragile.My reputation was ruined just before I divorced my husband, No one respected me in any way.To my face I was
slandered and insulted. Not worth dignifying. I was innocent. I do not claim to be pure, but I am innocent of 95% . Have a right to defend myself. I did not ever have a boyfriend, was not planning to get a divorce. I am not respected. There is no reason, and it is to the point that I cannot attend church, participate in public functions, get medical care, etc., without being mocked and harassed. I have been so slandered and defamed that when I moved , relocated, all over it followed me and there was no chance of my ever dating, remarrying, having friends, a career. I was only 39 when this massive smear and slander campaign was launched.. That is not that old. I had many years to do many things, including working, finishing my degrees. No. Someone had another agenda without consulting me. That is something I wanted to do more than anything remarry, have a chance for a normal live and to finish my degree.. I was not homely then. I am not a dumb person; capable of doing what I wanted to do, well capable.Kept broke for years.
I said that to say this, maybe you should see an attorney.But have a binding signed on the dotted line contract to confidentiality, first. It did not help me. It made all grossly and extensively worse, not reparable, destroyed my career twice.You might want to think twice before trying to file defamation of character, slander, or attempted Character assassination suits, or harassment with intent to harm, kill, alienation of affection attempted or other wise. Harassment and slander with reckless disregard for our personal safety did not help either. They did not stop with me. They wanted us eliminated as a family . Me off the face of the earth. Nor did the charges of gross and extensive violations of our privacy and confidentiality stick. I lost all but my kids, lost my career twice. Lost two homes, all
due to gross slander, harassment, defamation, invasions and gross disregard for me as human who wanted a normal life, to be respected, right to work.I was not incompetent.ever, in any form. That is the truth. I was assaulted and battered x 2 from the time of my divorce, one was an abduction.
Mocked over it. That is not a lie. I am not exaggerating. Just brushed off. I have no credibility it seems. This has been done to me deliberately because some serious things went on, long ago. It was not necessary because I had no intention of dragging these things up. I was NOT the one who started the smear and slander.. I am not a swinger, single or married.
I also wanted to finish my degree, and help my children, but I was so ruined, I had to hide out in my apartment for many years, then was run out of town, and forced to move all over. I could go to the cemetery, library, a few WW meetings and the grocery store. I visited my Mom. I tried to go to a movie , and I tried to go out once or twice. No way. Ruined. ,. No one came to see me but my Mom, the person who brought her, and the lad ies I worked for, my daughter and her friends. Every where I went, the gross mockery, ridicule, indignities, and harassment were there No chance to start over. I had no family there, or friends, and I know the people called back there to get references , then the harassers came in and started on me again. This is not my imagination. Stalked into my apartment and reminded of something terrible. I had to leave
again, like a hunted animal, with no money, nothing.. THAT IS A RUINED REPUTATION. Attorneys did it.THAT IS shame, I did not deserve that. I did not deserve being done that way because I was a lonely female with no friends or family but my old Mom
and two teenagers who cared at all.
They also seem to think that saying a curse word is worse than adultery, murder, promiscuousness,fraud, thievery.
Consider this. It takes an awful lot to completely ruin most people here in the USA. Look at what has gone on in politics, etc. Maybe it is not as bad as you think. They say things are not quite as bad as you think they are. May be bad, but not as bad. Is it as bad as this, run off the face of the earth to do others undoing?