Frustration tolerance levels.... related to anger?

Question

I was thinking about anger... and how some people seem to just be "angry" people whilst some aren't... (I don't think I have ever been angry or violent in my entire life!) but I do often feel very frustrated and disappointed with life.... but I accept it because I feel life doesn't owe anyone anything. For me I play the self-blame game and feel frustrated with myself for "failing" or what ever...

I wondered if an inability to "accept" or deal with frustration is linked to anger?

What tips people over from frustration into anger then sometimes violence?

Why do people get angry and violent?

What do you do when you feel disappointed and frustrated? Do you blame other people then get angry? Or do you accept frustration as part of life and not let it get under your skin?

Answer 1

In the first paragraph, what you are doing is, you are creating levels of expectation for yourself which are causing you your problem. Stop creating expectations you are unable to live up to. That is the problem with that.



Frustration can lead to anger if you do not let it go. Just let the expectations go. Think about something else when your mind wanders to what you consider your failings.



I think it is impulse. Most anger is done without thinking. It is a reaction without control. But in order to get to the root of the cause, you have to have control and use your mind instead of your impulses. IMPULSE is at the root of anger, and using your MIND to control the feelings is what prevents anger from occurring.



Anger is not a bad behavior if it is under control. Anger is a bad behavior when it hurts others. Of course, in a manner of speaking, you are first hurting yourself before you do hurt others, since anger and hate are great ways of killing yourself.



When I am disappointed, I evaluate my expectations and decide that I could not rely on myself or others to meet them and then I just LET IT GO. Give it up man! That is the best thing to do. Just keep on walking in life, keep right on walking.



Blaming other people is childish. Everyone is responsible totally for themselves.



I don't accept frustration, I just change my expectations, to none rather than something.

Answer 2

You play the self blame?



Then why are you being angry at me and saying I need to get a life just because my question is quite long and you can't be bothered to read it ? I suggest you get therapy if you are feeling angry, instead of taking it out on other Answers users.

Answer 3

Try Meditation and Yoga and you will never have the frustration or anger .



It will be disappear from the life of individual who has frustration or anger

Answer 4

Perception is the wisdom of life. Consciousness basic seat of our action. 50% we get it from our parent at time when we are conceived. 50% is created our atmosphere we live. It is not possible to avoid with Pride, Passion, Anger, Jealousy and Greed. You can practice to avoid them through Yoga.

Answer 5

the answer (my opinion) is , because people are different.

but i admire you because of what you do with your frustrations

I do the same . and i think we shouldn t blame or argue or pick a fight with the others , because of our own frustration or anger

good question as always

have a nice day

Answer 6

first, you must realize that humans are basically primates, and exhibit primate behavior (aggressive and territorial) when they feel threatened or abandoned



those traits led the naked apes to the top of the food chain in a very short amount of time, all things considered



we are born with those traits, and we learn, at home and in society, how to either moderate, harness, or control those tendencies



some people, those who don't have loving, stable homes, never learn how to control those tendencies, let alone harness or moderate them, and they live in a state of stress--where everything that happens is evaluated through the lens of 'attack or abandon'