If I want to get rid of you or get you away from me what does that mean?

Question

Do you ever push people away from you and what does that mean when you do that? What do you really want from them when you are doing that? What do you think that they want from you when you are getting close to people? What can they do to keep you from feeling like that? Do you find it hard to get attached to others or accept them being attached to you? Do you feel like attachments lead to feelings of expectations or do you expect things from people that you get attached to? Can you explain that to me?

Answer 1

tht means u hate tht person or want time alone

Answer 2

Siply put, we all have the ability to shut people out. Refuse the intimacy of the relationship. Therefore, we do not invest as much time with that person. To "push" them away, means to refuse your personal time and communication. Think of it this way : You have friends, best friends and acquaintences. Some people know your dark secrets and your fears, what makes you happy, etc... Some people only know what makes you happy or excited and other people just know that you're a nice person who's friendly and open. Your investments with these people is how they place in your life.

Answer 3

" Do you feel like attachments lead to feelings of expectations or do you expect things from people that you get attached to? "



This part of your question seems to nail the answer, at least for me. I have trouble getting close to people because I am afraid that they will require me to commit myself to their emotional agenda, when I would rather not do that. I would gladly be a friend to the person, but sometimes people do not accept a friend who will not give a show of emotion in support of them, even if that friend would show support in deeds and opinions. I shy away from obviously emotionally needy people, because their affect and demeanor give me the feeling that they wish to cause me emotional turmoil or upset me by involving me in emotional tangles that I feel can be solved logically (but which they need some sort of emotional catharsis to get through.) It is a fundamental difference in approach to personal problems and quandaries.



Personally I don't expect things from people I have acquaintance with. If I have a real attachment (family, marriage, vows of solidarity, etc.), then I understand I have made a commitment and am attached by my own actions and words. It is the people who take a casual friendship to be a license to wrest deep secrets or push a person to do something that the person feels uncomfortable doing that I try to avoid. I try to do this without being obvious to the person, since that might be construed as insulting.



One example is an outgoing, social person might say hello by embracing me and getting really close to me, not knowing that I am the opposite of the touchy-feely type and I value my personal space. The person doesn't know better, but it makes me uncomfortable and more likely to steer clear at the next meeting. It isn't "pushing them away" I guess, but more "social weeding by outward signs." This happens at all levels of a friendship; it is a rare person who can be told that something he or she does makes me uncomfortable without becoming defensive.

Answer 4

I push people away because I want to be alone; I want them to leave me alone. Listen don't worry about what people think or what they want from you; next thing you know you'll be beating your head up against a wall. What can they do from keeping "me" feeling like that? They don't have to do a thing, but to make "my" life such as it is, because "I'm" are allowing them to. You have to keep yourself from feeling like that. Do "I" find it hard to get attached to others or accept them being attached to me? I take it in stride, for everything there is a season and a reason. Do "I" feel like attachments lead to feelings or expectations or do "I" expect things from people "I" get attached to? Yes, attachments are always going to lead to feelings or expectations; something that we have no control over, but how we handle it is where the control comes, keep this in mind. Do "I" expect things from people that "I" get attached to? I only expect that what I get, see and feel; I expect more when I get, see and feell that I am getting more. At all times expect in return only that what you give. You give cheer you get happiness....

Answer 5

Often because I don't like how close they are to me (someone I just met, wants to dig into my bedroom drawers assuming that much closeness, no way dude). Sometimes because I want them to do more to be able to stay that close to me, which means I keep them at an increased distance that I am will to give (a friend but not very sincere friend assumes that he can just go through the personal folders in my laptop, nope, you can use my laptop, but not that folder).



I do that to communicate to people how much closeness I am willing to give, to each person. Rarely I do that to tell them if they want to get closer, they have to be nicer (or whatever, you get the point)



Both explanations are in terms of a relationship.

Answer 6

usually, it means a fear of commitment because of a relationship gone wrong. if youve really been hurt, your going to 2nd guess everything. the best thing is to expect nothing, no one owes you anything anyway, after a while, you will learn to see the signs early on of possible problems in a romantic relationship, or even a friendship. if your like me, you will ignore them because of infatuation and suffer later. expectation is just wishful thinking, and in some ways its wrong because its a form of selfishness. ideally, people should do for others because they care and expect nothing in return. it happens alot more than we think, which is great. as far as what people want from you when your getting close is affection and acceptance. you have to watch out for those who use others, and there are alot of them. i was born with sucker stamped on my forehead, and i still fall for some of it. attachments naturally lead to expectations, thats why alot of people are disappointed. if you expect nothing, anything positive is a plus.

Answer 7

Your response would indicate your rejection of me, and to me, it seems to be there is some characteristic manifested by me that you find totally unacceptable. It would make no difference if i had several acceptable, and even desirable characteristics acceptable to you. To answer the second part of your question, attachments of any kind, aside from the parent/child attachment, are unacceptable to me. Attachments are accompanied with expectations, and I do not welcome expectations. This attitude of mine is the result of ongoing processes of self examinations which give me insight into my feelings. However, understanding why i feel a particular way does not give way to my accepting behaviors, or dynamics rejected by me.

Answer 8

from personal experiece i used to at one time love to have ppl around me and close to me and be attached to .. it made me feel good...warm.... but i guess with time each and every one of them left without once thinking bout how it would affect me or anythin at all... i ended up lost and alone and wondered where i went wrong.... but soon i started to realise i allowed myself toget attached to them and felt they were too ... but i was wrong.... so now if i feel someone gettin close to me i push em away or i keep my distance because i dont wanna get hurt again or feel that pain... that coldness ....like they say u get hurt only when u have expectations from others cause more often times then not those expectations are never met... so its better not to have any at all... keeps u safe.... im not sayin this is healthy or a good way to live but after so much hurt its the only way i know and live by......... id rather be in my shell alone.....cause everytime i try now to get outta it the sun blind's me and im forced to get back in......... or more frankly im scared to get close to ppl or let anyone get close to me anymore ! ever again !!!!

Answer 9

Someone moving in on you, can make you feel threatened or insecure. They are occupying space in your territory (using up your oxygen). If this is a new friend you will feel they don't belong there. Before reacting think about what qualities they bring into the relationship and if this move can benefit you. Don't be afraid of change if it's improvement. If it turns out to be good for them and not for you, get your space back.

Answer 10

when u want to get rid of someone or push them away its simple in meaning subconsciuosly u do it sometimes,means u aint accepting them ,there is something inside u that doesnt want them,could be physical ,character,anything ,and when someone gets close to another or wants to get attached to them it doesnt necessary mean they r expecting something,its more of the comfort zone if u know what i mean,an intellectual ,maybe physical desire or comfort,its like magnetics , ,u get attracted to opposite poles (male -female)and repel from same sex,for me i feel more of comfort speaking to a woman than a man,although there is no rule ,some men r cool to speak to and u feel nice and comforted when they r your friends,

Answer 11

First, your q looks more like a page filler than a real q.Just in case; It is a normal human thing we want to interact with others. Nobody likes or gets along with everybody either. We all pick and choose our frinds nothing new. I am lost wat your problem is. But then again it is just a page filler probably.

Answer 12

Vibrational discord. You don`t fit at this time.

Most of that is caused by body type incompatibility and in that case it rarely changes. The same applies to attractions, though of course in reverse.

Otherwise it can be a matter of re-alignment of focus on vibrational accord or discord connected to your wants, desires, dreams, or on repulsive or resisting thoughts, feelings, sensations, emotions and beliefs.

Answer 13

Guy on tv, Greg Behrandt show - wrote a book



He's just not into you.

It describes when this is happening.



So,

get into yourself.

Your life, education, travel, learning, and be a good person.

You will attract those people who need you into your life.



GOD bless us always.

MBA-Boston Univ.

Answer 14

do you think you can simplify this series of questions?

maybe you are just neurotic and antisocial!

But, even paranoids have real enemies!

Answer 15

a old hill billy once told me the reason he does not wave when you pass him is that if he did you would just want something else and he ant wanting to give

Answer 16

lol Hun simple as pie lol u guys don't have what it takes if have doubts move on find that one person when you do u wont have thoughts like that anymore lol u decide how u wanna be around and if minds telling u this stuff follow it

Answer 17

It means that you have had enough...perhaps I made you upset or I did something wrong...sorry...loll

Answer 18

Yes, there is nothing wrong with that. It is a free country. You don't have to associate with whom you don't want.