How do you handle it when you realize you're emotionally attached?

Question

It could be any person,or even a thing but more so when its a person

I heard so people saying that they slash their wrists for their friend inorder to show that they feel the same pain as their friends,,,whew!!!!

And then they realized that their friends cared a fig for ir and moved on with some better person...why so much of attachment?

Then there are some people who after rejection seek a bad company so that they can show to those whom they were rejected that they are worthy of making friends but dont realize that they are making a gross error.This happens in love also

I feel that you can be attached as long as your needs arent getting violated,thats where you need to put a break

Answer 1

I don't get attached to people I can't trust. That's how I handle it.



Attachment should occur as a natural consequence of a healthy and mutually deliberate relationship.You shouldn't get attached to people who do not want the same level of intimacy as you.



It's as simple as that. If you jump off the plane without the necessary parachute, you'll have to face the music.

Answer 2

Wait a minute...Let me get this straight, are we just talking about being emotionally attached, or being emotionally attached and then getting hurt or rejected?



I've been in both situations. I actually enjoy the feeling a lot, even when it hurts, because it builds so much character and experience in dealing with the feelings that come with being so attached to something. I was emotionally attached to someone for 5 years who toyed with my heart and made my life miserable. I cried regularly, wondering what I did to deserve such suffering...but at the same time, it made me fight to keep going. I wanted to show this person that I could stand on my own two feet and be the best I could ever be. So while there were times when I wanted to wallow in my sorrow, I distracted myself with my goals, and pushed myself twice as hard. Had I not been so emotionally involved, I would not have cared as much as I did...it takes those strong feelings to really know what true drive is.



To Eliza: You shouldn't yes, but that doesn't mean that you can control it. Sometimes circumstances cause things to happen that you would have never expected. Unrequited love is extremely common, especially if the other person gave a reason for such feelings to develop.

Answer 3

Uggh, this is such a hard but great question.



I can just say that attachment is a problem I have. Rarely on the same page it seems--always wrong for one of the parties involved. So far it has been that they're attached but I am not, I am attached but they are not, or we both are attached and we both are scared to be--lol so the attachment is never validated. Attachment gives me a bunch of mixed emotions---I feel confident and certain yet scared and unsure--->>I am truly confused about it and yet I want it very much---sigh. IDK, but I totally agree that if both needs aren't being met, it is time to go. I have the going part down (lol) but sometimes it is hard for me to go and I stay too long. If I don't leave, I feel stifled and in someway held back until I finally do. It's like at the first sign of over attachment I want to go and the first sign that I am more attached then they are, I want to go---LOL!!



As you can see, it's a real problem---hahaha!!

Answer 4

Polylepis,



The matter is not how long one should stay attached to somebody or something. The matter is whether it is correct to get attached to somebody or something.



A person remains strong as long as he does not get attached to anybody, and begins to weaken as soon as he gets attached to somebody. It is very necessay to understand this thing and never to forget it. Attachment is the cause of all problems.



* When you get attached to somebody, you feel sorrow when that person is lost.



* When you get attached to your money, you feel sorrow when that money is lost.



* When you get attached to your house, you feel sorrow when that house is lost.



And this has been commonly taught in all the religious and spiritual books that non-attachment is the way to salvation-----getting free from the cycle of life and death. If you want attachment, your attachment should be only with God, the Creator of the entire scheme of things. He is never lost because he is eternal.

Answer 5

Do nothing unless you feel the other person is also

Answer 6

Damnit people use proper grammar!!! If I talk like this "hay durr i has a queshun, y am i so dam stoopud!" I wouldn't expect to get my answer.

So please.. PLEASE... use proper grammar, I'm just trying to help you.

Also about your question, cutting yourself for attention is gay, and stupid.