I can't relate to people at all...does anyone have empathy or compassion any more?

Question

I was locked in the laundry room at my flats last night...I shut the door as always so that I'd disturb people as little as possible, and the handle broke off from the inside. So I wasn't able to open the door. I tried everything I could for about a half hour before starting to bang on the door and yell for someone to get me out.

Eventually the police arrived (after about 2 hours) as someone must have called them, and the male cop was nothing short of abusive to me from the moment he got there. He got me out of there, then immediately started ridiculing me and saying "Why did you lock the door?" I told him I didn't and that the handle just fell off, but whenever I used reason with him he just got angrier and angrier and told me not to "f**king talk to him like that" until he accused me of being on drugs cos my pupils were dilated and I was sweating.

I told him he'd probs be the same if he'd been locked in a room for 2 hrs and then he got really mad and started patting me down, and took my keys and told me he was gonna search my flat for drugs, after checking there was no-one injured in my flat. I took him and the b*tch cop up there and for some reason he relented after a minute and just asked me one more time, "You sure you haven't taken anything?" before leaving.

I don't understand people. Why did no-one open the door instead of getting the police? And why were the cops so antagonistic to me? I've always had this experience with police before but used to think I was the one with the problem. But having had this one I can see they are heartless b*stards, all the time. I thought their job was to help people but I guess not.

I have a voluntary job and I'm supposed to go in today but having had no sleep I'm questioning if I should bother. Is there any point working with people and trying to help people, when nobody has any intelligence, compassion or manners anymore? And when they wouldn't help me if I was the one in need? There is no reasoning with other people; it's like we've all reverted to being savage, distrustful beasts. Is there any point even trying to enjoy life when everyone is so selfish? How can I even know that any of my so-called "friends" even care about me at all?

Answer 1

Sam,



Yes, some people still do have empathy and compassion... but they're a pretty rare find.



One problem is that life has gotten a lot more difficult and more confusing for a lot of people recently, so a lot of people are just trying to kind of... make it to next week. Know what I mean? So, they're starting out with a perturbed state of mind.



The thing is, though, whether you want to do this or not, often the only way you'll get along well with people is by being nice to them first. If you can be a calm and thoughtful person when you interact with someone, usually, they'll love that, and will want to be helpful or at least civil. Some don't respond to that, though, and by recognizing these people, you can take then take the alternative route, which is to mirror them. Talk and act as they do, and they might sort of begrudgingly respect you. This is basically a large part of what is known as neuro-linguistic progamming (NLP) - look into it if you're interested. A third option is to calmly call their hostility out into the open - ask them why they're so angry. If you look reasonable, and call them on this, they will look unreasonable. This can make them feel ashamed of themselves, and may nudge them to change their approach.



But I know what you're saying. I hope things will go better for you.



Cheers -

Answer 2

i don't understand - forgiveness implies some previous trespass, and that i don't think of it relatively is critical first with a view to have empathy, compassion, or kindness. in actuality, i think of many trespasses abort the opportunity of those issues as quickly as committed. i don't in all threat understand forgiveness ok - we gained't undo what somebody else has completed, nor erase the implications - what does it relatively advise to forgive? To conform to proceed to love them? possibly we are able to do this when or two times, yet - trespasses against love take their toll, no remember if we want them to or not. we are able to forgive somebody for failing to water a plant too, yet - if it is going on too long the plant dies besides. i think of empathy, compassion, and kindness are self sufficient of forgiveness and can exist on my own, with out forgiveness.

Answer 3

Awww, I feel so sorry for your woes!



Just think of it as a bad experience. Many times we get punished for no faults of ours. That breaking off of the handle wasn't your fault...but it set the ball rolling in a wrong direction.



As for the public servants...well, there's no accounting for their behaviour. Maybe he too had a bad day and being called up for what may not be a great emergency in his eyes further miffed him.



How about sending him a Thank you card?

Answer 4

I can't relate to people at all...does anyone have empathy or compassion any more?



~~~ Yes.



"Do what you know to be right, say what you know to be true, and leave with faith and patience the consequences to god!" - F.W. Robertson



"Be the change that you want to see!"



All love is 'Self!' love!

All judgment is 'Self!' judgment!

All hate is 'Self!' hate!



"The eye by which I see God is the same as the eye by which God sees me. My eye and God's



eye are one and the same." - Meister Eckhart

ONE AND THE SAME!



The new, critically updated all inclusive definition of 'Knowledge' is; "that which is perceived"!

All knowledge is 'Self!' knowledge, every moment/percept of existence, all inclusive!



"Perhaps it is the curvature of space that, like a fun-house mirror distorting our own reflection, we imagine strangers." - Mythopoeicon



tat tvam asi ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tat_Tvam_As… )

Answer 5

yeah that sux alright ,but the thing about life that i really appreciate is that u just never know where stuff can lead. what looks like bad luck,often turns out to be the reverse.

Answer 6

Dude stop being nice to people they dont really care about you how long did it take to realize that. I am usually neutral to everyone because i know once you fk up they start kicking you.