Question:
2day is my b-day but....?
the Juggernaut
2007-03-07 14:48:34 UTC
I don't feel very happy 2day and haven't for awhile now,maybe cause some things I had been hoping on didn't happen.I was hoping to get into fitness competitions but things keep coming up that slow me down,I told a woman I loved since childhood how I felt and was shot down,I haven't had anyone I can really talk to about things and I just feel so empty and unfulfilled.Any ideas on what I could or should do cause I feel like theres no one for me out there and I feel like I'm becoming more and more distant from everything plus I just wanna disappear?
26 answers:
canron4peace
2007-03-13 11:59:17 UTC
Sounds like you are on a roll. It also sounds like you were already on this roll when you approached this woman. Any idea why you got the cold shoulder? Would it not be better to try that after the fitness competition? Some women prefer a slightly different approach. But all in all I know that people want to enjoy themselves, so that is where I would put my attention. You could be a ten or you could be a one on any given day. Nobody enjoys a one except another one, so why bother. Be a ten and go for another ten. You can do it.

When it comes to relationships you have to realize one thing that doesn't apply normally. You cannot very easily create in the experience of another. For this reason you will have more success saying to the universe. Here is the description of the person I want. I want her/him to look just like so and so. An inch taller would be fine. I want this person to have these qualities...patient like my mom, good sense of humor like my aunt Alice, sharp dresser like such and such an actress/actor, have a good job with lots of free time for travelling, likes to go dancing, etc. etc. etc. as many details as you can think of that you would like. Writing them down is even better. Just for fun stick your list in a special container. Now get ready for this magical person. Start preparing for him/her and continue to do this for as long as you have. It might be a week, one or two months, depends on how much emotion (positive) and expectation you stick into your life. You should act like it is a sure bet. I have helped others start to think this way and it has always worked and amazingly at that. On your mark.........
Rosie 89
2007-03-07 23:06:19 UTC
Aw man I know exactly how you feel I take meds for depression and it keeps me pretty content and able to deal with the ups and downs of life but just remember you are never alone your family loves you...I thought for the longest time that happiness was having a man in my life, but it caused a lot of hurt and disappointment thinking that way...and I learned that true happiness comes from within I don't want to sound too corny but felt you needed someone there for you...so here I am and by the way have a Happy Happy BIrthday This too shall pass : ))
mybrokenending
2007-03-07 22:59:42 UTC
Hi. First of all, happy birthday. Second of all, it sounds like you are becoming/are depressed. If you've been feeling this way nonstop for a few weeks, I would recommend you going to a doctor and telling them about this. They might prescribe anti-depressants for you and this would be a lot better than what you might go through in the future. I would go there as soon as you can. And, I know you're going through a hard time, but there's a light at the end of the tunnel. I know it doesn't seem like it and you might not know what it is, but there is. Trust me, I've been there. ^_^ Have a happier birthday. Just keep your head up and smile.
enlightenment2121
2007-03-14 18:24:12 UTC
Belated Happy birthday! I understand how you feel.

In my experience, setbacks are just there to magnify the effect of a WIN you will have in the future on those same areas.





Happiness is a state of mind, it may sometimes depend on

outside stimulation but most of the time, it comes from within , from your own admiration of yourself, your being. If you don't admire yourself how can you be happy? Given that others admire you but you know you're doing something unethical,

you will find it difficult to be happy. You will feel empty and unfulfilled.. See, the opposite of being empty is being full. Full of what you may ask? Admiration to yourself because you're

true to yourself , you take responsibility, you respect yourself, the environment & others. So, you are proud of yourself, you become happy.



You said you want to disappear. I just want to ask if you can really disappear. If the "You" that you are referring to is your spirit, well, it leaves your body when you die and go somewhere else. Your body on the other hand, transforms into another element. That's not you, that's your body. So, you, the spirit just travels in another dimention. You are still there...you can never disappear, you can just be unaware.





In Awe & in Bliss,

janaki
zingis
2007-03-07 23:38:54 UTC
Happy Birthday Dude.



1. There really are plenty of fish in the sea. But

2. The fish don't make you happy... you make you happy.

3. Being a happy, confident guy attracts the fish.

4. If you want to be in fitness competitions, don't let things slow you down, make today day one again and plan to kick butt in those upcoming competitons. A birthday is a good day to start fresh.



Peace
cat
2007-03-07 23:05:38 UTC
Hey, I'm sure you're a great person. I know you feel helpless and empty right now, but if you give up now you'll never find your other half. I thought that I had found my other half and married him then 6.5 years and 3 kids later I found my true other half and no option is a good one because I love them both and made a promise to the one I married. So, maybe the one that shredded your heart has made way for your true love to find you. Please don't give up hope. And by the way HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!
mysteria
2007-03-07 22:58:29 UTC
happy b-day,im sorry you feel bad.it sucks liking or loving someone that doesnt feel the same way.you will find someone when your time comes.it may be tomarrow or maybe a year,but hang in there.do something that makes you happy,go somewhere with a friend,or just talk to us here.its never to late to start the fitness thing,you just have to make yourself do it.what do you look like,maybe we could give you pointers on maybe hair,styles that would get attention,you may be looking in the wrong places for a companion.anyways,good luck and hold your head high,there are alot worse things than being single.
?
2007-03-09 00:13:11 UTC
Happy birthday , to you.

Happy birthday , to you.

Happy birthday dear Jugg!

Happy birthday to you.



Find an inner peace in knowing that all of us here at yahoo celebrate your birthday with you. you are not alone. You could go to your local church and even if they are not open for services you could find the pastor and tell him how you feel. Or go directly to God and pray for inner peace. Go to the library and browse for a book....there will be other lonely people there to talk with. you must make/take the initiative to reach out. There are also hot lines to call....and they will listen with out judging you. Everyone needs to vent their frustrations. Don't hold it inside and let it eat your soul . Get out of the house and go shopping and break into a conversation with someone. Be cool and friendly. Things will get better but you must help us help you.
Izen G
2007-03-15 06:13:31 UTC
First: Congratz on making it through another year! I hope your new one will be better.



Now, pull your head out and get on with life! Stop hoping and wishing for things, do what's needed to live and concentrate on things which actually mean something in day to day living. All those other things will fall into place when and where they're supposed to and in the manner they're supposed to. Until then just be patient and aviod getting yourself so depressed.
jejavi183
2007-03-15 07:04:33 UTC
Happy Birthday, and Good for you for telling that girl how you felt! My friend of 15 years recently told me he was in love with me. I didn't feel the same. He felt embarrassed and worthless. But I didn't see him that way at all. Even though I didn't feel the same, I truly was FLATTERED that he told me he was in love with me. She is not in anyway disgusted or unhappy to hear what you had to say. Keep your head held high, you did the right thing!
anonymous
2007-03-12 10:58:30 UTC
yes i really pitty you ,,your life is empty and unfullfilled and you wanna dissapear pitty,,,pitty,,,pitty

i just give a lift to my neighbour to the hospital today his got a diabetes and his left feet been amputated recently and another check if his other leg has to go too his not my close friend just a guy in our community last christmas his wife and three chidren and a younger sister died in a head on collision with another stolen car driven by an addict chasing by the

police on a wrong side of the road the impact put the car in flame and nobody survive,,,,,

really i pitty you for not getting into your fitness competition
angelicahevenly
2007-03-07 23:01:42 UTC
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU HUN xoxo

try joining some sort of social group to meet people and get out and about with them and remember things take time and dont happen over night.

You will find someone when you least expect it and are not looking for it. When your happy within yourself and your situation you will find that people will pick up on that and people will be more drawn to you.Good luck and EMBRACE LIFE :))
imnottellingmyname
2007-03-07 23:15:13 UTC
You put this in philopophy? You get a philosophical answer.



Nothing matters. Therefore, niether does you birthday, your libido, or health.



Get over yourself. If you don't want to, there is one obvious route. If I say it, I will probably be kicked off Y!A for suggesting things like it. You can probably figure it out; it doesnt matter, since you don't seem the type who would do that.
BANANA
2007-03-07 23:02:02 UTC
Damn, sounds like my life and Friday is my birthday. I'm giving myself a party and I'm the only one invited. Going to a concert on Saturday and getting laid on Friday > and I don't care with whom. The party lasts for one year and I alone control it. Try it, its empowering and I feel better than I have in a long time just planning it. Trust me and get started now!
anonymous
2007-03-14 04:29:52 UTC
See the USA recruiter. There is trouble outside Tiny Town.

Up to age 42.................... But wait! Here is another option:



The French Foreign Legion will take you away from the USA,

under any name you care to invent, and you can find the address of the D.C. Embassy of France at the public library.

Serve your term and your reward is dual citizenship in USA

or France as you please. Did I mention the Legion will teach you how to read, speak, and write French? Write soon!
michelebaruch
2007-03-13 13:16:22 UTC
Happy Birthday. I understand how you feel, but you have to decide that you are in charge of you. If you are dependent on what others think of you, you are doomed.



Talk to your pastor, or someone of your religious persuasion.

Go do volunteer work, you will meet other people there. But Change is in your hand only.
anonymous
2007-03-14 15:57:43 UTC
Happiness is dependent on circumstances.Everything you have listed seems to me to be all the circumstances that have lead you into this funk of a depression.



When our circumstances are good then we are happy.



Why do we hinge our life on something that is totally dependent on circumstances which eventually robs us of hope?



Joy on the other hand is a life-force and doesn't depend on

circumstances at all..



By the way depression is a choice.Choose joy!
mina_lumina
2007-03-07 23:01:27 UTC
Happy Birthday. From my own experience, birthdays seem to suck more and more every year. The best thing to do os suck it up and try to have a good time. Get some friends together and go... bowling? Playing pool... that sort of thing. It's your happy day, damnit!
Miss_Sunshine
2007-03-07 22:54:26 UTC
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!

* now go and eat some ice cream and maybe go to a place where you can meet new, genuine people and enjoy yourself- things will get better, they always do, no matter how bad you feel

-listen to some good music to you in a good mood

*good luck , you are not alone :)
Shadow Lark
2007-03-07 22:57:44 UTC
Happy Birthday!!!! i'm sorry your feeling down though. go out with some of your buds and see a movie or something. try to have some fun. this is the day to celebrate your birth! *sings 'happy birthday' to you*

peace
?
2007-03-07 23:57:00 UTC
Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you how old are you? give yourself a chance, I know that you are young, don't give up on our world, find a way to make it better for all of us! well just you being in the world makes it better for all of us, now you have to tell us how old you are, smile 4 U, there will be other woman you will find one give yourself a chance.
Icewomanblockstheshot
2007-03-12 20:17:25 UTC
Number one, understand that you are just as good as the person next to you.



My father's advice to me growing up: Liking someone is a matter of taste; you can't be responsible for anyone's lack of it.
King de Puttenham
2007-03-13 13:34:33 UTC
A very happy birthday prayer goes out to you.



You sound like a sensitive person. Sinsitive in a possitive manner. Some of our greatest writers, poets, actors and politicians have been where you are today.



President Abraham Lincoln suffered from depression all of his life. He had dreams and goals early on that seemed just out of his reach. He failed in some areas that many people would have given up on.



He lost his mother as a youngster and yet his step-mother became even closer to him. In fact, he loved her so much that he had a mansion built just for her and that she was to live in 'all of her days'.



His step-brother, John Johnston, is not heard of much in history. He didn't even have a beer named for him. He was continually in debt and frequently sought Mr. Lincolns help in the way of loans which he never paid back.



One day, while in the White House, Mr. Lincoln received a note from John in which he stated his immediate need for some monies, yet again.



AL wrote back that it seemed to him JJ's problem was not his need for money, which AL would give him, but JJ needed to learn to stop being a lazy lout. AL then offered him a deal. "Go to work for Mr. .... and for every dollar you earn, I will match it. Dollar for dollar."



The President did not hear back from his step brother who lost everything again and continued in his life thusly.



You see, we all lose. I lost the most important woman in my life. She loved me with her heart and with all that she was. When I was about to be overcome by people, it was she who came to my protection. I came from a life of abuse and she saw something beautiful in me and saved me. Then she died.



Life is not over, my friend. Life is an adventure. It is filled with valley's so we can recognized just how wonderful the mountain tops really are.



You are needed. Needed by every child who is hurting. You are wanted. Wanted by any right thinking individual who sees your inner beauty. You are desirous. Desirous in the things you can share, not take.



Here is my solution for every birthday no one is here to celebrate with me. For Christmas, holidays and even for specials day when I am alone, because I am alone, I like to go to a coffee shop. One of my favorites is by our local college. I sit there, have a roll and get a book to look at. In a few moments, ALWAYS, someone stops by and we strike up a visit. I'll buy them a cup of coffee as a birthday gift from me and for me. Soon, and this has never failed, others gather around, usually students, and we have a wonderful time talking about important things and a whole lot of nothingness.



Are you miserable my child? Find someone to cheer up and a miracle will happen for you. I wish I could be someone you wanted to talk with on a frequent basis, but someone is out there waiting to talk. Who knows, someday you just might find someone at a coffee shop who will buy you a cuppa. If he has white hair, don't give up on him as just a old fuddy duddy, he just might be that special person you can talk with.



Best of lives and best of love
oscar c
2007-03-13 11:58:02 UTC
You can talk to me if you want=)

Life can't be that bad. You want to live my life for one day and see if you could handle it? kidding.



HAppy Birthday my dear, and more to come.
tweed801
2007-03-07 23:00:39 UTC
where you go? happy birthday theirs a woman out there for every one. you can do it.
sweetgretchem
2007-03-14 03:21:16 UTC
happy birthday, buy yourself a bike and ride it, youll get over it....


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