Do expecting necessarily mean golddigging?? Pls read and answer?

Question

A golddigger is a one who only dates or marry men just for money or gifts. For her, money could be more important than relationship. But if you marry a guy whom you love or is in love relationship, practically, is it just possible never to expect anything from him no matter how much you love him or value your relation more than money. I don't mean you have to expect something expensive or which he can't afford, but if you see with practical approach, is it wrong to expect little gifts, basic things from him. Say its valentines day, and is it wrong if you expect from him anything like flowers, or card or atleast a dinner. And maybe you may not expect, but how would u feel if he don't do anything though he can afford?

If he really loves you, he will do atleast something to make you feel good. If husband really loves his wife then he will surely take care of her needs, isn't it. Here where the problem, its not that you only be with someone for money, but when you are with someone, isn't it natural that you expect atleast some from him.

How would you feel if the guy with whom you are with, he at one place claims to love you, but don't have heart to spend much on you like not even give you a card or a flowers, not even take u to dinner, or even he has to call u, he cares for phone bill more than talking to u, he do this even though he can reasonably afford.

Is it wrong to expect from your husband to once in while spend on eating out, candle light, movies, basic things, little gifts like cards or anything which makes you feel good, etc. especially when he can afford it. But there are some types of men who wants a women for sex and chores, and they keep claiming that they love her, but from hearts of hearts they don't have heart to spent anything on her, they just want a wife to bear kids and take care of home, and when wife complaints that he never takes her even for movie or dinner or not even giving anything except food and shelter then she is tagged as golddigger or she is told that all that is more important for you than your husband.

Can golddigging be mistaken with expecting even necessary?

Answer 1

I hope really really hope you are not married to someone like this.I have been married 55 years and I say when a man brings home his pay packet he should give the wife the lot and just keep what he needs to spend on himself she has to manage the home expenses it is after all a 2 become 1 theoryso that the man gives everything to the woman and the woman gives everything to the man

Answer 2

I am a guy and what you are "expecting" is not gold-digging. What you want are some basic things that a guy can and should do every so oftne to show you he cares about you. Yes, I am married 6 years now and you learn quickly that it's little things here and there that will keep your wife happy.

Answer 3

Hmmmm.. nicely sweety.. no it snot gold digging.. in ur concern ... its tremendous.. definite u have the right to anticipate this.. i recommend ... truly love is the only element substantial .. and needed in r/deliver.. than materialistic issues.. effective love is imp .. yet protecting ur better 1/2 is likewise needed.. wat ur asking .. is a thanks to shop u satisfied...for r/deliver to keep up love is needed.. and yea there might want to be r/deliver without waiting for something .. definite its achieveable.. yet wat ur asking is actual.. ur hubby can take u some dinner.. and gives you u some fantastic presents.. yet u gota understand him first.. imagine if he can furnish u this stuff why he's not ... he works rt.. he comes homestead from artwork lower than pressure... he expects ur love and compassion... supply it to him.. besides ur his spouse. . u only can stright up educate ur thoughts.. u can ask him .. to take u out only once .. that can make u satisfied.. ofcourse.. he hasto tc of u .. else who will ... he owes u that a lot.... and its no longer improper for godl digging... no longer close to it.. realx .. u have the moral severe floor.. wish this enables have relaxing